Am I the only one who can feel ridiculously self conscious when I do something outside of my normal style or makeup routine?
Sometimes when I'm doing my makeup, I get a wild hair and just decide to try something new. Maybe it's a bold eye shadow shade that I avoid for the day-to-day but is suddenly speaking to me. Or it might be an outfit that mixes patterns that feel a little wild. The other day it was a bold red lip at 10 o'clock in the morning that made me feel incredibly daring...and vulnerable.
I used to wear red lipstick all the time (it was in college, right around the time I discovered Kandee Johnson on YouTube and I fell in love with her red lipstick looks and quirky style.) However, in the recent years, I'm more likely to forget lipstick than anything else. When I received the Maybelline Voxbox, I was excited to have both a more nude shade to choose from along with a red. Obviously I wanted to do a wear test with both of the lipsticks before deciding if I was going to talk about them on here, so, one day last week I put on my makeup and reached for the red shade.
When I put on this red lip, I loved it! It was vibrant, playful, and the perfect way to brighten up a Monday morning that was feeling mundane (and sleepy after a busy wedding weekend out of town.) Then I had to leave my apartment and run some errands.
Suddenly I found myself feeling incredibly self-conscious.
Wouldn't everyone notice my bold lip choice? Was I too dressed up to run errands, meet with a couple vendor friends to return items used at that weekend's wedding, and drop something off with Michael at work?
When I was checking out at the grocery store (my first stop), I felt like surely the cashier was going to ask me where I was headed. Because people don't just wear a bold lip out for no reason. Right?
Obviously the cashier never said a thing. No one did. I went through my day and crossed everything off my list and never received a second glance. Because the vulnerability I was feeling was coming 100% from me. For some reason my brain had decided that it really mattered that I was and it was super unusual to wear red lipstick out in public when it wasn't an evening event.
But why did it matter? I love it when other women rock a bold lipstick, eye look, or outfit in public. I always think they look awesome and it never crosses my mind to think they're doing something unusual. In college I went to the store post-show (musical theater major here) with all kinds of crazy makeup looks on and never gave it a second thought. (Hello going to the store covered in false bruises after performances of Man of La Mancha.) My college roommate and I even got pulled over one time because her taillight was out and could not for the life of us understand why the officer was polite but giving us bizarre looks while he wrote her a ticket. It wasn't until we got back to the dorms and were retelling the story that our suitemate pointed out that my roommate still had her old age makeup on from the show and I looked like someone straight out of a Tim Burton movie. haha!
So why do I feel so self-conscious now?
I still haven't completely figured out the answer. I do feel like some of it lies within stepping out of my normal routine - I'm a creature of habit. New things can be fun but sometimes are a little scary to my routine-loving self. One thing I do know, though, is that I definitely don't like it and want to intentionally start pushing myself to step out of my comfort zone and experiment with my style. To intentionally live boldly, because life is too short to have your day shaken up by choosing a bold life color!
What's something that makes you feel self-conscious for no rational reason? How do you go about overcoming things like this?
To the bold life, my friends!
Dress: Target (thrifted) | Sweater: Gift | Shoes: Minnetonka Moccasins
Leggings: Faded Glory Fleece Lined Leggings | Glasses: Bonlook
Lipstick: Maybelline SuperStay 24 Color (c/o) | Location: North Charleston, SC
Hello, I'm Stacia!
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